Surviving The Fury And The Shame Of A Failed Office Romance (for Women Only)
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Getting Over the Pain of an Office Romance
A failed romance is always a demoralizing experience for women and humiliating if you have been dating a co-worker openly. When he suddenly dumps you for reasons you cannot fathom, you will never know where to look - at the ceiling or at the floor? The situation could have been handled differently and unnoticed if the affair was with somebody not connected with the office, but what can you do to survive the daily encounters with your ex?
You cannot crack his head with one of your desk clocks, or erase his computer files just to retaliate. Though revenge is inviting, do not stoop to this level. Doing so would mar your professional image and destroy chances for a promotion.
These handyl pointers from survivors are sensible solutions to your situation:
* Act as if you are okay. Continue to be your usual cheerful self and focus on your work, never mind if there are raised eyebrows because your ex is chasing another girl at the water cooler.
* Surreptitiously erase his picturefrom the digital frames of your atomic clocks at home and in the office. There is no reason to do this with fanfare. Switch it with your cat’s picture to make you feel better.
* Be a professional. Don’t talk to him unless it is work-related; when you do, call him by his name preceded with a Mister, but smile to show the world you are not wretchedness.
* Do not quit your job no matter how much you itch to get away. The backbiters will have their heyday if you do. But if the new job offers a bigger pay and a nice (read far away) location, get it. Announce the reasons later to nip in the bud nasty speculations.
* Keep silent. Do not degrade yourself by blabbing. You do not have to give a blow-by-blow detail of your break-up to the girl in the next cubicle.
* Keep yourself occupied and stay away from the water cooler until things die down, but be active in office activities and socials.
* Don’t expect you can forget him in a month. Sometimes it takes a year to heal emotionally. Fortunately, the pain just vanishes and you will be your usual self again, so why waste more tears?
* Avoid him but do not be too obvious about it; doing so would trigger a conflagration of speculations.
* RemoveGet rid of the desk accessories he gave you plus that widget from his nautical table clocks collection.
* Staying cool despite your inner turmoil can boost your image because the boss sees he can rely on your performance even in traumatic situations. This is a plus if you’re aspiring for a promotion.
Surely keeping your dignity has its rewards. After all, there’s still a likelihood of a better relationship - but avoid office romance. After the shame and the fury, would you have another office romance?
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