Handling A Break Up - Truth About Being Spurned
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If you’ve just been dumped are you still okay with yourself? In other words, do you still feel good about being you.
Yes, tough question when you’ve had the rug pulled from under your feet in a relationship you’ve become comfortable being a part of. But this is a vital question and if you’re answer is no then there are things you can do to start seeing yourself in a more positive light.
When handling a relationship break up becomes too much to bear then take time out. Disassociate yourself from your ex and grab some important me time as we’ll explain why in this article.
What Does T W Jackson Say?
The main problem affecting those who are on the receiving end of a dumping is they suddenly have issues with their self esteem and translate the actions of their ex as being the general feelings of the rest of the population.
Remember, when one hears those piercing words…”I want to break up…” feelings of desperation and panic will follow and this is a dangerous time for the person spurned paticularly if they have a deep desire to get back with their ex.
Well, T W Jackson makes the point in The Magic Of Making Up that the best course of action is to agree with the break up, tell your ex you were even thinking about it for sometime yourself and then just take time out.
More to the point, you don’t want to threaten them with any statement that contain the words “or else” in them. Just agree and walk away. It’s the most sensible way of handling a relationship break up.
Is It A Relationship Worth Going Back To?
This time should be dedicated to analyzing your relationship in a very objective way. By agreeing with the break up, you have got your ex thinking about the way you reacted. Even if you’re reading this sometime after being dumped you can still drop them a note or make a phone call and reiterate your position.
By analyzing, we mean looking at the good and bad things about your relationship. Think what attracted them to you.
Then make a thorough analysis of your findings and weigh up the negative aspects against the positives. If the negatives far outweigh the positives then there are two things you need to ask yourself - can you turn things around and if not, why would you want your ex back?
Remember, handling a relationship break up takes courage but you will only succeed if you can separate fiction from reality.
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